How not to take things personally? | Frederik Imbo | TEDxMechelen

4 Kov 2020
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Frederik Imbo studied theatre at the Royal Conservatory of Ghent and has acted in lots of television series. He founded Imboorling and now has over 15 years' experience in stimulating and supporting people. With the aim of improving their communication skills Frederik gives presentations, workshops, training courses and personal coaching sessions to anyone prepared to make their two ears available.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  • His teaching relates to my thinking. This is helping a chang in my thinking ,and is helping my high blood pressure.

    Jessica grayJessica grayPrieš 4 minutes
  • This is so true for me i need to change n be more happy n chill in this sense

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  • I remember there was a class in my middle school that was similar to this I think was named 'Character development.' Just putting it out there if anyone wants to learn more about topics like these.

    Lina ALina APrieš 3 val
  • Majestic and breathtaking. You are so right about being fortunate to live beneath dark skies. Millions around the globe are, sadly, cut off rom the universe in a very real way. This was your finest opening, Richard! That Sony does great things with video at night. Maybe you can now better capture a light painting session so we can see your timings and technique?

    Chris MosnerChris MosnerPrieš 4 val
  • Loved the last 20euros example

    Shalini JainShalini JainPrieš 5 val
  • We need a Tedx Talks School 😊

    Deriv Trading CommunityDeriv Trading CommunityPrieš 7 val
  • As a performer, I too wondered why the audience would be quite when I would perform on stage. Like many people here are wondering the same question about this audience. One day I asked a seasoned performer if he knew why the audience wasn’t clapping or being more vocal... he told me that the when a performance is so good, the audience is captivated by the presentation that they don’t think to clap or show emotion. It all makes sense because at the end of every show we would get a standing ovation. Crazy how that works. And in the theater world being quite is good etiquette as well. You literally have to tell the audience they can clap and make noise.

    Nets 4 ChangeNets 4 ChangePrieš 8 val
  • Epic ending

    Diegomolinams98Diegomolinams98Prieš 9 val
  • Yesterday someone asked me if I was insecure about my body and I lied to them and told them no I love my body. It definitely needs some work but I love it nonetheless because it is mine and mine only... I felt attacked by the mere question that I cried my eyes out until I fell asleep. Maybe the person was raising this seeing how I'm always so reserved and unconfident ... Or it is about me... The fact that it is hard to look at myself in the mirror, take pictures and post them, wear fashionable clothes like girls my age or even walk down the street without my arms crossed and head pointed at the ground... But you see, these are things you can't tell people... As a girl who grew up without a mother around... there are things that affect the way you view yourself... But this guy brings an interesting idea to my head. It is so simple but hardly ever practiced. I'm not in need of sympathy, I just wanted to share my piece of story and tell you to stay strong.

    Claire JonesClaire JonesPrieš 11 val
  • how handsome of a man. thanks for the talk.

    Zaria LaneZaria LanePrieš 20 val
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  • Good stuff✌️

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  • Thank you

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  • People on the internet especially twitch, twitter, reddit should see this and take his advice. I am fcking tired of banning words on forums and see whining people on meme subreddits that they got offended by something that's not offensive in any way.

    Bence SárköziBence SárköziPrieš dieną
  • I am just here to see the other side of the story

    chaitanya velamalachaitanya velamalaPrieš dieną
  • this is some polyanna naive kind of wishy washy thiinking and quite harming. you can take this personally

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  • Just love it, thank you.

    Zakir ChowdhoryZakir ChowdhoryPrieš dieną
  • What if he shits on the 20EUR - who wants it then?:)

    ImmortalImmortalPrieš dieną
  • OMG. The ending was GOLD. A huge thank you Frederick for this much-needed pep talk.

    MMPrieš dieną
  • Hi Frederik, thanks very much!

    Federico TarroniFederico TarroniPrieš dieną
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    Lelan TanphucLelan TanphucPrieš dieną
  • Wow sir that was really really helpful❤️❤️

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  • I cried when he said "No matter what people say, you will always keep you value." Hit me like a ton of bricks.

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  • I was really glad that i'd stumbled on this video and this was my first time that I watched ted talk that I really finished it. At the end of the video it was a very thought-provoking metephor. I even smiled at the end of the video while he said "You will always keep your value."

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  • This guy is a genius

    Devineee VisionaryDevineee VisionaryPrieš 2 dienas
  • I needed this today. Thanks, Google.

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  • In conclusion: $20 is $20

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    • Whatzapp

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      Jenifer RyanJenifer RyanPrieš 2 dienas
  • Wonderful public speaking and suberb ending! Will have to use that sometime!!!

    Amen SisterAmen SisterPrieš 2 dienas
    • +1 3 0 2 4 8 1 9 2 5 7

      Jenifer RyanJenifer RyanPrieš 2 dienas
    • Whatzapp

      Jenifer RyanJenifer RyanPrieš 2 dienas
    • All thanks to Janet foreign exchange for helping me to trade my $400 into Bitcoin and I was credited with the sum of $5400 after seven working days of my trade with her now I’m debt free I can settle my bills without even touching my paycheck I’m so happy with Bitcoin life is easy 😊

      Jenifer RyanJenifer RyanPrieš 2 dienas
  • 9:54 my thoughts exactly

    Joseph MillsJoseph MillsPrieš 2 dienas
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      Jenifer RyanJenifer RyanPrieš 2 dienas
    • Whatzapp ✅

      Jenifer RyanJenifer RyanPrieš 2 dienas
    • All thanks to Janet foreign exchange for helping me to trade my $400 into Bitcoin and I was credited with the sum of $5400 after seven working days of my trade with her now I’m debt free I can settle my bills without even touching my paycheck I’m so happy with Bitcoin life is easy 😊😊

      Jenifer RyanJenifer RyanPrieš 2 dienas
  • i showed this to my girlfriend but she took it personally

    logan swartzlogan swartzPrieš 2 dienas
    • +1 3 0 2 4 8 1 9 2 5 7

      Jenifer RyanJenifer RyanPrieš 2 dienas
    • Whatzapp

      Jenifer RyanJenifer RyanPrieš 2 dienas
    • All thanks to Janet foreign exchange for helping me to trade my $400 into Bitcoin and I was credited with the sum of $5400 after seven working days of my trade with her now I’m debt free I can settle my bills without even touching my paycheck I’m so happy with Bitcoin life is easy 😊

      Jenifer RyanJenifer RyanPrieš 2 dienas
  • We need this sooo much, because people are becoming soo rude, and not gentle

    Abiya FellakAbiya FellakPrieš 2 dienas
  • This must be one of the best videos of the year! Impressive, thx

    Abiya FellakAbiya FellakPrieš 2 dienas
  • “You will always keep your value”. Wow so powerful!

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  • This is what should be called motivational video. I loved it

    Fidel LivinoFidel LivinoPrieš 2 dienas
  • Love this

    Milly ThimarasMilly ThimarasPrieš 2 dienas
  • That ending..wow! "Wipes tear from eye"

    mosomo17mosomo17Prieš 2 dienas
  • Be honest, open-minded and comunicate is the key of almost social interface problems in some kind of society. (shouldnt generalize things however i am just trying to contrast by using my limited expericence ) :)

    thuy Phamthuy PhamPrieš 2 dienas
  • Awesome talk!

    Míša DoležalováMíša DoležalováPrieš 2 dienas
  • Kevin De Bruyne, you are not a referee but a Manchester city player

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  • Beautiful words 💚

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  • I guess sometimes we take things personally becoz we have this justice mentality, yet we might not know the difference between "true justice" and "perceived justice". In the case of this referee example, he WAS doing the players a "favour" by making sure the game is played according to the rules, rules in which both sides agreed on. But those who want to win without playing by the rules get angry. They simply don't deserve his "favour", or even the right to play. These bad players have a "perceived justice" a.k.a. "u let me win = justice", yet we know "true justice" is when everyone play by the rules fairly and win. So, in conclusion: learn what "true justice" is, don't go and perceive your own version of what justice is, coz "true justice" is / should be appreciated by everyone, even when we are human and sometimes just don't do so.

    birdieculturebirdieculturePrieš 2 dienas
  • Came here thinking it was Prince Harry talking about dealing with what people are saying about him and Megan.

    EdEdPrieš 2 dienas
    • I clicked thinking it was Owen Hunt from Grey's Anatomy in the thumbnail 👀

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  • Thank you so much

    Mónica SalinasMónica SalinasPrieš 2 dienas
  • Thank you

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  • I'm putting this comment here... for ME

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  • How would you measure 50000 thoughts?

    gruenerfuxgruenerfuxPrieš 3 dienas
  • I do take things personally and it sucks man fr even I admit it it Destroys me from meeting new people, this vid explain it all thank you

    Sergio RenteriaSergio RenteriaPrieš 3 dienas
  • Am I the only one who doesn't love the ending? I thought it was quite a cheap shot tbh. Liked the rest though

    rysiek085rysiek085Prieš 3 dienas
    • how it's the best part

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  • I came here to make sure this want the red headed doctor from grey's anatomy

    BLENDABLEBLENDABLEPrieš 3 dienas
  • Good talk. . .the ending was 👌

    Dee S. OlafsenDee S. OlafsenPrieš 3 dienas
  • I remember once when I still played soccer as a teenager, I was talking with a teammate since we both were reserve players, and I said something funny that made him laugh. The referee saw that and came, sanctioning my friend because he thought he was laughing at him. Probably the opposite of the speaker in this video

    dynamiczerodynamiczeroPrieš 3 dienas
  • fantastic!

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    Aryan YuvrajAryan YuvrajPrieš 3 dienas
  • That's what I did. Taking it personally, then tell my boss I don't like that way. I did it 3 times but at the 3rd time I added that I would go look for another job. I was the first one to speak up ever and now at least she knows. I was unemployed for 3 months (2nd lockdown was also happening) and then I got a job interview in wich I exactly told what I like and don't like. They hired me. 💪. I hope this is, at 46, the beginning of more happiness and confidence. I happen to see this video after the interview so why did I do it the way I did? I did a MyersBriggs personality test and I learned that there are more like me. Knowing that helped me🙂

    Simone Bosman- ZomerSimone Bosman- ZomerPrieš 3 dienas
  • When you focus on the intention of the other person, you're basically showing empathy for the other person, right?

    Silvio MSilvio MPrieš 3 dienas
    • you can show empathy towards others without necessarily allowing their behaviour to affect you.

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  • thank you so much

    isipisiisipisiPrieš 3 dienas
  • Only 20e per match ? I dont believe it 🤣

    Eko OnyiEko OnyiPrieš 3 dienas
  • My ego does not approve this message.

    Shan HowardShan HowardPrieš 3 dienas
  • I was really really impressed... Thank you more than what I can explain. You talked warmly and pleasantly, and explained easily and simply. I imagine that your coin-two-strategies will help me a lot. You are the one of the most touching speechers in my life.

    Captain FruitCaptain FruitPrieš 3 dienas
  • Well done.

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  • Interestingly enough, I came to using this strat without even realizing it while working as technical support. I sometimes deal with people that are upset about recent changes or about the fact that something broke and they want to blame IT services as a whole and they tell it to me but I've realized - it's not about me. It wasn't me who broke their computer, so why should I feel bad about it? That allowed me to focus on fixing the issues and resulted in much better customer service. Thank you for putting this strategy into words, much appreciated

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  • Awww his speech was so cute!

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  • place SPANISH translator please!!

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  • Bienvenidos a Bankrupcy.

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  • I needed this.

    Ger LoGer LoPrieš 4 dienas
  • Stop trying to seek validation from people that don’t f wit you

    The CommentThe CommentPrieš 4 dienas
  • Awesome. Greetings from Brazil

    AbdullaDooAbdullaDooPrieš 4 dienas
  • Learned more from this than my therapist.

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  • Me and Micahel Jordan disliked this video.

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    • Hahahahaha, good one.

      John HendersonJohn HendersonPrieš 3 dienas
  • Did anybody @ Michael Jordan yet?

    Daniel YoungDaniel YoungPrieš 4 dienas
  • Michael Jordan seeing that video :

    Roby FischerRoby FischerPrieš 4 dienas
  • Best Ted talk I’ve ever seen so far !

    Keilie VelasquezKeilie VelasquezPrieš 4 dienas
  • WoW..... Its great presentation sir🙏🙏😍😍

    Roni HossainRoni HossainPrieš 4 dienas
  • Great Performance.

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  • Never knew Kevin De bruyne gave ted talks

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  • This is what I need right now, youtube algorithm is such a mystery

    Arya Danih LesmanaArya Danih LesmanaPrieš 4 dienas
    • Me too 🙏

      Abiya FellakAbiya FellakPrieš 2 dienas
  • This was a great watch. I recommend.

    Jaeda DavisJaeda DavisPrieš 4 dienas
  • what if they don't understand my feelings or care about my situation even if i didn't blame them ?

    Ridmi PereraRidmi PereraPrieš 4 dienas
  • Dam lines after 16:15 took my ❤️

    HarshHarshPrieš 4 dienas
    • Hi, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please spread the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with theirselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik ImboPrieš 4 dienas
  • great speaker, seems like a good dude.

    Erik AstonErik AstonPrieš 4 dienas
    • Hi Erik, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please spread the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with theirselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik ImboPrieš 4 dienas
  • I heard it on loop twice just to soak this wisdom .. I so need to get this right , Thanku 😇😇

    Sreekala VijayarudranSreekala VijayarudranPrieš 4 dienas
  • Thank you. Everyone needs this knowledge.

    Mariska DMariska DPrieš 4 dienas
  • Great Talk

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    • Thank you for watching my talk and thanks for your kind response. Good luck applying the insights and tips.

      Frederik ImboFrederik ImboPrieš 4 dienas
  • Is there anybody in the comments to confirm (with a link possibly) the fact about the 50k thought and the 10k neg. Tought? Thanks

    coktail mazaltovcoktail mazaltovPrieš 4 dienas
  • The ending argument got me.

    Caleb The RagdollCaleb The RagdollPrieš 4 dienas
    • Thank you for watching my talk and thanks for your kind response. Good luck applying the insights and tips.

      Frederik ImboFrederik ImboPrieš 4 dienas
  • مر من هنا من صلى على رسول الله

    Nor AlNor AlPrieš 4 dienas
  • I watch this video when i take something personally.

    Saiki KusuoSaiki KusuoPrieš 5 dienų
    • @Frederik Imbo Thank you too. I'll do my best.

      Saiki KusuoSaiki KusuoPrieš 4 dienas
    • Hi Saiki, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable for you. I wish you good luck putting the insights and tips in practice. Sometimes it will work and it will give you a feeling of peace and victory over yourself. On other moments, it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Be gentle with yourself then and above all, be proud on the progress that you're making. I’m cheering you on! Please spread the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with theirselves and others. Warmly, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik ImboPrieš 4 dienas
  • The reality is that this world is developing a non respectful part in conversation,relationship,discussion,amorosity,empathy,consideration and above all, NO, pro active thinking. Yes, Fredrick's advice is affective and temporary, but at the "end of the day" we all need accollades and love because....we need it to feel worthy/

    GUSSTASSGUSSTASSPrieš 5 dienų
    • Thank you for your reaction. I think we should all reflect a bit more upon ourselves: are we the best version of ourselves? Is what we do, say, think and do an expression of love?

      Frederik ImboFrederik ImboPrieš 4 dienas
  • Being aware of your triggers and wanting to change them is the way to self acceptance

    Blanca LjBlanca LjPrieš 5 dienų
  • Such a beautiful talks, so inspiring!

    AriannaAriannaPrieš 5 dienų
  • this was fantastic. I just right at this moment really needed to watch this. thank you Frederik.

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